Single mum dating

Especially the people you want to attract, aka awesome men.

By Ne Teah Hatchett There seem to be several perks when it comes to dating a woman with kid(s).

This kindness bleeds into your other relationships. Being a single mom means that you have been through at least three life-altering experiences.

Forgive the friends and in-laws who you felt deserted you.

Through my circle of friends and single moms I meet through this blog, I often hear cries of horror about the thought of single mom dating. What man in his right mind would date someone with so much baggage? People are attracted to these single-mom qualities in a real, meaningful way. Now, I have reached many milestones in my career, relationships, and inner life.

My single-mom body is a wreck and I haven’t been on a date in 15 years! Confidence, a full heart, and life experience all equals being a richer, fuller person. My longest friendships were still forming, and I was still figuring out what was most important to me. Women with kids have a whole lot of responsibilities. Time is precious, and efficient moms know that the best way to spend time with a man is truly enjoying a really, really great one.

Now your skill set is completing the housework one handed and the only man you’re likely to meet is the postman. I’ve spent the past three years dating as a single mom – including a year-long relationship—and let me tell you something: there is no better time than to date than as a single mom. When I was dating in my twenties, I was looking for a husband with a healthy set of testicles with which to sire children. You survived that, and not only are you better for it – you’re sexier for it. Age and childbearing has allowed you to enjoy your body for all it has to offer. When I met my husband in my mid-twenties, I was still struggling to make my way professionally. When we do have time for boyfriends, we make the very most of it. There is less temptation to piddle away hours waiting on losers to commit just because you’re lonely (you will end up selling your engagement ring anyway with those guys). I can check that off my life to-do list and look for a man for love or companionship or sex – or all three. Whether the single part was by way of divorce, breakup, death or choice, it was a big deal, and that changed you. I have lunches to make and doctor appointments to schedule. Busy single moms have fewer lonely nights to fill, fewer dinners eaten alone.So why leave the house to find a match when you can swipe through thousands of potential dates from your sofa in your pyjamas? Scrolling through a few of my ancient Tinder messages, the majority of the conversations have ended with me mentioning my son.It’s at that point they usuall ghost me (as in disappear like a ghost, never to be seen or heard of again).