15 comments While many foreigners initially find dating in the Netherlands daunting or inaccessible, understanding Dutch personality traits and mentality can help reduce miscommunicating the ‘flirting' signals as practised by Dutch women and Dutch men.Of course, similar to elsewhere, online dating in the Netherlands is increasingly becoming the norm as taboos are shed, particularly among older daters.Notice to competitors: The information supplied by A Foreign Affair, including addresses, graphics and text is intended to be used by A Foreign Affair's clients for private non-commercial use only.Any use of this information for any commercial purposes without the prior written permission of A Foreign Affair is strictly prohibited.You may be wondering how can that be, with countless stories of mail-order brides and international couples meeting on the internet, but there are several points to consider.There is no need for a hot 21-year-old Russian girl to pursue a long-term relationship with an American man who doesn’t speak Russian, doesn’t have local connections, and doesn’t have any long-term roots instead of dating a high-value Russian man that she can easily get.How long will you date the Colombian for the novelty factor before easing back into your previous routine?
It doesn’t help our cause that foreign women view us as a less worthy long-term partner than a local man.Even in the poorest countries of the world, the most beautiful women have multiple strong options, and when you get into the 8 and 9 range, you will find it quite challenging to maintain a relationship with her since she has so many high-value local men in her orbit. Say that you studied Spanish in high school and later as an adult met a Colombian girl who moved to your city. She is quite pretty, but not higher than what you can normally get.You begin dating her and appreciate her feminine qualities and exotic nature, but local girls above her beauty range still give you tons of attention, while the emotional connection with the Colombian is stunted because of not being able to communicate properly with her.Photo: aenimation An American girl giving you her phone number means she is considering going out with you. With an Italian girl, you will work hard just to get her phone number. The fact that she says no the first time doesn’t mean she can’t go out or doesn’t want to. Now, the third time she says no, she means it (and don’t insist). Italian guys take the same amount of time to get ready as American girls.It doesn’t take long to get — after all, it’s her number, not a wedding ring. Right away, she wants to have an idea of how hard you are going to work to get her attention. On the one hand, fashion, elegance, and taste are embedded in the Italian culture, so Italian guys don’t even notice they have this going for them.